This person was important to us.This day is not like other days.This journey is not like other journeys.Our loss is meaningful enough that we take special care in a
special vehicle to solemnly and ceremoniously convey the earthly remains of our
loved one to a special place where their life will be honored and remembered.
Sunday, August 31, 2008
- FIXED OVERHEAD COSTS- These are the costs we incur just by being in business and ready to serve the community's various needs. (Costs incurred for specific services are charged as used.) Each family is charged equally for these costs, regardless of disposition choice and other services selected.
- COMPLETE ARRANGEMENTS, SUPERVISION, AND FACILITATION OF SERVICES DESIRED- This includes meeting with the family to: explain all options and choices, help develop a meaningful remembrance and memorialization, secure vital statistics information, explain and complete itemized cost agreement, and extend credit.
- OVERSEE AND IMPLEMENT FAMILY'S WISHES- We contact, coordinate times with and convey the family's wishes as needed to: clergy, musicians, necessary automotive equipment, hair dressers, civic and fraternal organizations, veterans associations, companies providing desired merchandise or services, coroner and physician, type obituary and deliver information and photos to all newspapers requested, crematory and cemetery.
- COMPLETION OF ALL LEGAL DOCUMENTS, PERMITS, REPORTS AND FORMS- This includes: prepare and deliver death certificate to physician and pick-up when completed, VA and social security forms, cemetery forms and permits, filing completed death certificate and final disposition form with coroner and register of deeds, and obtaining certified copies of the death certificates when they become available.
- ANSWER ALL TELEPHONE CALLS AND INQUIRIES REGARDING DEATH SERVICES
- AVAILABILITY OF FAMILY SERVICE COORDINATORS FOR AFTER SERVICES FOLLOW-UP AND PRE-PLANNING AT NO EXTRA CHARGE
In part 2 of this series, I will explain some of the costs that derive from specific service choices. If you would like further explanation of any of the items listed above, or have questions about any other aspect of funeral services, you may email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Saturday, August 30, 2008
"In the fall of 1994, when I was 3 months pregnant (having had several earlier miscarriages), my partner of 12 years, Jack, was diagnosed with a soft tissue sarcoma of which he died nearly 2 years later in August of 1996. In the interim we endured the horrors of multiple surgeries and chemotherapeutic assaults and our son, Rio, was born.
In my own experience of paralyzing grief, it has occurred to me that humans love, die and experience profound heartache as a common element of our lives. Although the painful suffering of grief is a very personal and often private process few of us manage to escape it. With the pictures I am making now, I hope to translate my own grieving process into a series of images in which the viewers can recognize and honor themselves.
Upon Jack's death, I began to make notations and sketches for a series of pictures based on my feelings and emotional experiences. For the first 18 months I was unable to face them in my studio but notions continued to present themselves and I continued to take notes. The finished body of work is made up of 20 pieces. Three contain stitched images that I made during endless hours at hospital bedsides." for the full text, and views of the entire series, visit the site http://www.dyingwell.com/griefseries/Main.htm
Friday, August 29, 2008
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Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Five years ago, I went through the training and became a certified Celebrant. I have helped families to create services that are meaningful and personalized to their needs. Though my other duties preclude me from being very active in Celebrant work, I would recommend the training to any funeral director because it teaches you many ways to connect better with families and craft services to fit them.
An In-Sight Institute Certified Celebrant is a person who has been trained and certified through the In-Sight Institute to meet the needs of families during their time of loss. A Funeral Celebrant serves by providing a funeral service, memorial service or tribute that is personalized and individualized to reflect the personality and life-style of the deceased after consultation with the family and loved ones and coordination with the funeral home.
The Celebrant meets with the family to offer guidance and consulting while planning a personalized and meaningful funeral to honor the loved one. Whenever possible, the Celebrant will also have a Family Time for sharing of stories and memories. A Celebrant has a wide library of resources for readings, music and other special ceremonies to help the family design a service that honors the life. -from the Celebrant website. for more information, or to find a Celebrant in your area visit http://www.insightbooks.com/
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
The crosses were created by a carpenter, Ion Stan Patras, who, in 1935, began personalizing his simple monuments. After attending the traditional three-day-long funerary vigils where Romanians gather to down plum brandy and tell stories about the deceased, he started composing brief poems to accompany his carvings.
Marine Gunnery Sgt. Richard W. Fischer was recently identified, after being listed missing in action in Southeast Asia during the Vietnam War. He was brought home to Madison for Funeral and Burial. This video, produced by Frogman Productions, has been the recipient of international awards.
Monday, August 25, 2008
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Thursday, August 21, 2008
I recently had the pleasure of touring the beautiful Cimetière Notre-Dame-des-Neiges in Montreal. This is a beautiful and historic cemetery that gives lie to the notion that cemeteries are wasted space, or that we've run out of room for cemeteries. It is all about priorities. We always have room for a new strip mall or industrial park- what legacy of history and beauty do those things leave? Because this cemetery is here in the middle of Montreal, the city has a park of unrivaled beauty, with innumerable poignant works of art in many styles. Many thanks to the Executive Director Yoland Tremblay and his staff for their gracious hospitality. Follow the first link for a look at their beautiful website.
New Orleans Jazz Funeral for tuba player Kerwin James from onenawlins via YouTube
As a funeral director, watching this makes me cringe at the possiblility of the casket being dropped, but the beauty of this ritual and love expressed by it are inspiring. The video is a bit long, but I think you'll find yourself watching it over and over as I did.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Saturday, August 9, 2008
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- Funeral service faces a crisis of relevance, and I am passionate about keeping the best traditions of service alive while adapting to the changing needs of families. Feel free to contact me with questions, or to share your thoughts on funeral service, ritual, and memorialization. email@example.com
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